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<h1 style="text-align: center;">Dear Future Girlfriend, RE: Facebook Profile Pictures</h1> <p style="text-align: center;"><img src="https://media.istockphoto.com/id/459398005/photo/facebook-homepage-closeup-on-lcd-screen-chrome-web-browser.jpg?s=612x612&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=KevU3UK4JBbE01-2NfqrLQWHcHUeqchg6yn-ZOuo25k=" alt="" width="800" /></p> <p>Since I&rsquo;m not in a relationship, there are things I want to write about but often can&rsquo;t because, well, I&rsquo;m not actually going through them. Anyone who&rsquo;s followed this blog knows I place a premium on writing about things I&rsquo;m either going through or have gone through.</p> <p>But there are some things I want to write about even if I&rsquo;m not going through them right at this moment. They&rsquo;re certain issues or points of conversation I&rsquo;m sure I will have with <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/Portugal-dating-service.html?gender=female&amp;page=5">my girlfriend of the future</a>. I don&rsquo;t know what she looks like (well, maybe I do). I have no idea what she will bring to the table, and I definitely can&rsquo;t predict the contentious points of our relationship. But I know at some point I will be in a relationship and at some point, certain things will come up.</p> <p>What I want to start doing is getting in front of these issues now, before she even comes into my life. We can certainly talk about them at some point, but I do believe these letters I write to her will be a good starting point for the conversation. As <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2024/12/11/how-to-build-a-lasting-relationship-beyond-ideal-proposals/">this Loveawake article on building lasting relationships</a> suggests, honest communication is the best foundation for any future connection.</p> <p>So future girlfriend who I don&rsquo;t know yet, I&rsquo;m going to need you to read these letters carefully. They&rsquo;re not all the answers to the test, but they&rsquo;re definitely a helpful study guide.</p> <h2>When Facebook Becomes the Third Wheel</h2> <p><a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/Italy-dating-service.html?gender=female">I once dated a girl</a>&nbsp;who was seemingly perfect in every way. This was long before you came into my life. She was a bit of a nag, and kind of seemed like she was in a rush to get into a relationship, especially on Facebook, but outside of those two particular issues, she was awesome; a real gem.</p> <p>But one day she crossed the line. She decided it would be cool to just post a picture the two of us took on her Facebook profile. And get this &mdash; she posted it as her profile picture! When I told her to take it down, she objected. I said she had to take it down, she had no choice. When she asked why, I said because I was through dating her and therefore the picture of us together was nothing more than a lie.</p> <p>Yeah, I know, I used to be messed up back then.</p> <p>Anyway, here was my issue with her posting up a picture of us on Facebook as her profile pic: she was showing off. She had a lot of friends, and I knew her profile picture was a carefully maintained vanity project. Shoot, I know mine is &mdash; and I refuse to let myself be used to show off the fact that someone is in a relationship. If it sounds unreasonable, trust me it isn&rsquo;t, because if anyone knows the art of Facebook profile curating, it&rsquo;s me. It&rsquo;s a theme echoed in <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2025/06/03/how-to-know-youre-ready-for-the-next-step-in-your-relationship/">Loveawake&rsquo;s discussion on knowing when you&rsquo;re ready for the next step</a>, which talks about perception versus reality in relationships.</p> <p>A couple of years before that girl, I was guilty of the same thing. There was the vacation I went on with an ex-girlfriend. We went to Cancun, stayed in plush accommodations, the whole nine yards. We took a ton of pictures &mdash; on the beach, by the pool, eating breakfast &mdash; and of course I wanted to show them off. Then there was another girlfriend later on, and for years I kept pictures of us up even after we broke up.</p> <h2>Why I&rsquo;d Rather Keep Us Private</h2> <p>But today, all those pictures are gone. When I think back to my motive for posting them, I realize all I really wanted to do was show off the women I was dating. They were the equivalent of a rapper&rsquo;s platinum chain, and I was the rapper, holding them up for the world to see. Posting those pictures was my way of saying, &ldquo;Look what I got, suckers!&rdquo;</p> <p>Now I&rsquo;m with you, and trust me when I say, you&rsquo;re <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/Mexico-dating-service.html?gender=female">the prettiest woman I&rsquo;ve ever dated</a>. I would love to show you off, but can we just settle on posting our relationship status instead of putting all these pictures of us posing for the cameras? It&rsquo;s not about hiding anything &mdash; it&rsquo;s about meaning. Like <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2019/11/25/keep-your-life-separate-from-your-relationship/">Loveawake&rsquo;s advice on keeping your life separate from your relationship</a> points out, privacy isn&rsquo;t secrecy &mdash; it&rsquo;s maturity.</p> <p>Candids are cool. We can let other people take pictures of us dancing, laughing, hugging, maybe even kissing, but none of this business where we ask someone to take a photo of us with a scenic background just to upload it. Let&rsquo;s frame them for our desks, use them as wallpapers, or keep them on our phones &mdash; not for an audience of strangers online.</p> <p>Like I said, I&rsquo;m not trying to hide what we have; I just want what we have to be ours. When we get married, I&rsquo;ll post the wedding pictures with pride. But until then, let&rsquo;s keep our story off everyone else&rsquo;s timeline &mdash; where it belongs.</p> <div id="gtx-trans" style="position: absolute; left: 480px; top: 1129.27px;">&nbsp;</div>